The Question of Size Part 2
For most men, penis size has always been a cause for concern. This is partly because the penis has been attributed to as the main symbol of masculinity. In addition, the proliferation of porn movies and videos that feature men with huger than average schlongs and women who contort and cavort with pleasure at such size also contribute to this fallacy of “size matters”.
Porn is porn. If rocket scientists get hired for their high IQs and science and math skills, porn actors also get hired for their physical endowments in the penile department. Comparing one’s tool to that of one who needs it for employment just simply isn’t good for you nor is it logical.
Also, and most importantly, studies on penis size show that almost 95% of men’s penis sizes fall within the average range of five to seven inches when erect. The other five percent are either smaller or star in porn movies. If you feel that yours is smaller than most, don’t fret. Most men in the general population are within your size bracket.
In addition, surveys on what women want from their lovers include kindness and caring, the ability to listen to their needs, shared interests, common values, and a sense of humor. Rarely is penis size ever even mentioned. Also, most sex therapists and experts report that women rarely, if ever, complain about their partner’s penis size. If ever there’s a problem in the bed department, it isn’t your tool.
If your real objective is to pleasure your lover, forget about the size of your penis. Be a better partner for her by listening to what she needs and being there for her when she needs you. Lastly, remember that people have sex with people not just organs. Your partner’s pleasure is not just centered on her vagina and you have other organs besides your penis that can give her pleasure. Explore her with your hands and mouth. Try to caress and kiss instead of just pumping until you’re spent. She’ll appreciate it more and you won’t know it unless you’ve stopped being so hung up on your size.
The Question Of Size Part 1
There are a lot of questions in this world that needs answering. Some of these questions involve a lifelong commitment in soul-searching and in-depth philosophizing. Some get the satisfaction of getting answers while some never get any answers. Some questions, however, do get answers but sometimes people just don’t get it. One of these questions is:
Does size matter?
And the answer: It ain’t about dick!
If you ask any credible and experienced sexual therapist and psychologist, they will most likely tell you what many men have heard before—Size doesn’t matter. However, despite the constant repetition, a lot of men still think that it does matter and it matters a lot.
The main reason behind this mindset and mentality for men would probably have to do with innate sexual differences between men and women and survival. Men are physically designed to spread their seeds and women are similarly designed to nurture their young. Men have the organ needed to transmit half the genetic material necessary for the propagation of the species while women have the vessel to receive it, grow it to babyhood, and nurture the babies through their infancy until toddlerhood.
In ancient times, this arrangement worked perfectly. Men can go hunt animals for food and go out to war while the women and the young stay in the village. Even if all but one man did not survive, the village can still continue because there are still many women around to carry and nurture babies. If the situation was reversed, meaning only one woman survived and the rest in the village are men; the question of replenishing the village’s population doesn’t look so bright.
With this in perspective, the penis, then, is not only an organ for copulation. It is a symbol for man’s worth as a significant contributor for the survival of the species. Manhood is equated to a man’s ability as a DNA donor. The penis is elevated to a fertility symbol and as symbols go: The bigger, the better.
What Attracts More Than People’s Attentions
Before some people started dating, one of the things that bothered them was the way they look. Some always felt that they were too fat, too short, and too unattractive to ever get the attention of the opposite sex. Some people’s motto were always, “life begins twenty pounds from now” or “life begins after I get washboard abs”. Some never thought of just asking a girl out and take it from there.
However, when some actually started dating, they had realized that it was not necessarily about the way they look more than anything. It was more of having the courage to take the first step and presenting themselves as the best person that they can be. Sure, physical appearances do get people’s attentions however a nice profile, high cheekbones, or a well-shaped nose don’t really maintain people’s attentions for long. It was their personality and attitude that created the bonds.
In a 1997 study by Merahbian and Blum where they studied the things that men and women find attractive, they found out that the most attractive features that women find in men were actually changeable. By changeable, this meant that the attractive features hold a certain degree of control for men. This feature was “self-care”. What this means for most of us guys is in order for us to be found attractive by women, we have to exercise proper grooming (We need to take care of ourselves—bathe regularly, brush our teeth, style our hair), have good posture (A good posture connotes confidence. A bad one just screams “I don’t care” and “I can’t be bothered), dress well (We don’t have to be fashionistas however we just have to make sure that our clothes fit well, look well-maintained, and the style shouldn’t clash like swords in a medieval battlefield).
Lastly and more importantly, the study showed that attitude attracts people and keeps them connected to us. Being pleasant, nice, and having a positive attitude can overshadow any of our perceived flaws.
How we look attracts people. But looks only go so far. If we put effort in being presentable and have a good attitude about it, people will take notice and would want to know us better.
How to Eat Healthy
Going fresh and going green are some of the options that can make you reserve that bag of chips and replace it with a trail mix of dried fruits and nuts. A creative way to approach a dieter’s dream of good food in one plate can translate to a gourmand of simple yet tasty creations. The farmer’s market is the best location to shop around for the essential and healthy food groups. Based on the food pyramid fruits and vegetables must weigh more than meat, poultry or fish. Check for a USDA approved food pyramid and print out for your reference. Stick it in your refrigerator door to remind you which food groups you should have the most in your daily menu. Keep in mind that processed foods such be avoided at best to prevent high cholesterol and too much sodium in the diet. Preservatives and the existence of trans fats only accumulate and slow down the natural processes in the body.
Always balance out the good and the bad. Do not completely eliminate fats. There are healthy fats to choose from that promote good cholesterol. Fats from plant products such as olive oil and avocado are good for the health taken in moderate amounts. Sources of protein can be placed on grilled fish or a lean turkey sandwich on full grain bread. For your greens, leafy vegetables are top choice. Rated high are those possessing a darker green that contain the essential anti oxidants that fight off disease.
Fiber in the diet is probably best observed in the mornings. Eating multi grain cereal or muesli can offer the recommended fiber intake for the day. Appreciate the sweetness and tartness of fruits in season. Ask your local grocer which are best for the picking. For dairy skim is best. Low fat is ranked second. Milk substitutes are acceptable although cow’s milk has the most vitamins and nutrients if you’re keeping score. Your kitchen is your haven so any decisions you make is for the good of your health and your loved ones.
Eating and Exercise
If you want to beat the bulge and don’t know square from peg then there is a great one two counter punch to deflect the myths in a dieter’s world. Striving hard in keeping the weight off is quite a challenge. However getting prepped for the right routine can be ultimately the most important part of the exercise program you get into.
If you have a day job stick to a routine that you think works best for you. The limits of your body can take its toll regardless if you do computer work or manual labor on the side. Your cardiovascular conditions already exist as part of your automatic reboot system. So in terms of gaining an advantage, youth can play a huge part as well as prominent weight lifting or daily physical activities that you are used to. In a manner of speaking eating a large meal four hours before a workout can spell a good source of energy compared to just waiting two hours to do your routine. Carbohydrates are a preferred source of energy when quantifying your food intake. Complex carbohydrates such as whole grain, pasta and loads of fruits and vegetables pack the necessary fuel to commit to your exercise. Indulging in these and eating a small portion of protein or fat is acceptable.
An athlete needs to hydrate however the main contention is when is it best to drink? You can drink at least an hour before exercise and after you’ve completed the program. A glass of water is enough before working out. Sipping water is quite okay too during exercise. Do not attempt to skip a meal or to exercise with an empty stomach. This causes your blood sugar to drop excessively and can cause you to weaken and feel faint. Another tip is to eat a light snack like a piece of fruit, or a sport drink before exercising. This may actually help you increase your metabolism.
Building Up for Competition
The gainful insight of maintaining that weight and keeping fit has placed a new standard with body building exercises. Being buff can be another aspect that lets you get involved with body modification with the physique to go to competitions and exhibiting muscle with a panel of judges to get the proper scoring based on appearance.
Tanning lotions and oils give a clear view of the muscle groups. The era of natural body building attests to a healthier lifestyle compared to those enhanced by steroids and illegal substances that contribute to a larger mass and bulk. Training for competition consists of the proper diet and exercise. Water, sodium and carbohydrates are reduced and eliminated the day before the actual contest. The leanness and visibility of veins accentuate the muscles. Pulling in more weights prior to the competition is also observed to fill the muscles with blood and increase in size.
Proteins and adequate rest is also observed. Sleep and workouts are melded and provide a balanced platform for the body to maintain its form. Bodybuilding can be stated as an art as it comprises of great preparation and gearing the body to increased repetitions with a heavier set of weights. Compared to aerobic training or for athletics this arena focuses on building the size and strength of muscles.
Nutrition wise a body builder needs more calories than an ordinary athlete. Protein and energy is essential to provide the body with an above average sustenance along with cardio exercises in training. The provision of the right proportion of protein, carbohydrates and fats are essential to helping reach the existing health conditions through foods with high biological value. Casein or whey has been found to have a high value in the ratio of protein intake for those in competition.
